Today a friend asked me a simple question.
why did you say I looked beautiful when I know you can’t see me?
My reply
because true beauty isn’t seen, it’s felt.
It got me thinking though, I quite often tell my girlfriends they are beautiful, gorgeous and pretty; either in person or commenting on Facebook or instagram. Have they all thought I was ‘just saying it to be nice’ ?
Facebook and instegram afford me the ability to REALLY look at my friends. By zooming in or magnifying their photographs (which now also makes me sound like a stalker!) I can sit and looking at them, take my time to move around each photograph. (Which now really makes me sound like a crazed stalker! I’m not – but then that is the first thing a stalker WOULD say)
I am not lying when I say they are beautiful, I say they are beautiful because I don’t need to see them, I know them, I know how beautiful they are as a whole person. They are my friends for many different reasons, they all give away both verbal and non-verbal cues to their beauty.
So, it is a true compliment when I call you beautiful or gorgeous. It isn’t a lie, it isn’t an empty gesture or out of habit.
It is the truth.
it also means that my friends have loan of a ‘blind perk’ – they can turn up at my door with no make up on, with a massive boil on the end of their nose and because of what as a blind person I see……. I will still see them as beautiful and gorgeous.
So, next time I pay you a compliment. Accept it. For I do truly mean it.
